Are We There Yet?: Happy 2nd Birthday Aidan

Before I started this post, I looked at my blog at the little ticker to the right that tracks how long it has been since Aidan and I "said goodbye".... 2 years. How has it been that long? I feel like I just held him. I still remember his baby soft skin and his weight. I loved how chubby he was. How he smelled. How truly beautiful.

Sometimes when I look back on the pictures of him, of us, it's like I'm looking back remembering someone else's life. I know it happened to me, I feel the emptiness that Aidan left behind in my heart everyday, but some days it's almost unbelievable. I guess that is just my mind trying to numb the pain that quite frankly if I felt all the time I don't think I would be able to function.

I thought the second year would be easier than the first. I don't think it is. Maybe it's because as time moves it pulls me further and further away from the wonderful moment I held him. Maybe it's because since we have Abbey I now really KNOW all that I missed out on with him. Maybe it's because that first year I was in a fog of grief, worry and hope over our pregnancy with our rainbow Abbey and possibly just the "fog" that your mind forces over you when you hurt that much for nothing more than self-preservation. All I know is this year, on what would be Aidan's 2nd Birthday...it is not easier. Not for me.

This year we organized another Random Act of Kindness Day in honor of Aidan. Last year we had 188 participate, this year we had 375. Some posted what they did on the event page. It was so wonderful seeing so many good works and acts done in memory of Aidan. I am so thankful to so many. The response this year was overwhelming. Perhaps it is that Aidan's story has touched their heart, perhaps it is that now more than ever we recognize that this world is in desperate need of kindness and love or perhaps it is God working through Aidan to, in small ways, heal the world in which we live. Whatever it was that moved so many to do these good works, I am so eternally grateful. Below are just a few of the posts that were on Aidan's Act of Kindness Day event page:

In honor of Aidan, we are donating clothes and toys to a local women's shelter. Happy Birthday Aidan!

Just as I told XXX that I was worried I wouldn't have an opportunity for RAOK, a sweaty man approached me. He showed me his veterans card, and explained he had been out of work and just got a job. He had a flat tire and car was stuck causing traffic jam. Needed $$ for a tow or change. I dunno. He could have been scheming me. He asked for $15 bucks. It was such a small amount I decided to take him at his word and give him all the cash I had.

I am spending my night volunteering to set up for a large community event tomorrow. Happy Birthday sweet boy fly high!!!

My kiddo and I bought the car behind us food in the drive through and made sure to tell the lady at the window that it is act of kindness day and to pay it forward. I felt so good making someone smile. Thank u Aidan!

Connor, my mom and I are about to head to the store to pick up DVDs and stuffed animals to donate to the patients at Children's Hospital at Medical City. It has been a great chance to talk to Connor about doing for others without expecting something in return. We will be thinking of you today, Aidan. You may have been tiny but you left a big impression on this world.

Just returned from Presbyterian Plano Labor and Delivery delivered two dozen cupcakes to the awesome nurses who comfort and care for the born and unborn. For the love of Aidan

Aidan, today lots of strangers got lattes at Starbucks in your honor! Also, the kiddos at the Dallas Children's Advocacy Center got a donation in your name! Happy Birthday Kiddo!

Today I brought in a danish for a co-worker, gummy bears for a friend to cheer her up, and helped an elderly woman with her medical bill.

The Talbott kido's just took 3 large bags full of children's clothes, books and toys and donated them to The Cancer Federation. By the end of the day Ben and I plan to treat a stranger to a gift from us. Happy Birthday, Aidan! Thank you so much for being such an inspiration in so many peoples lives♥

Our RAOK today was to pay for the two cars behind us in the drive-thru. I also had the cashier give them the note above so they understood why. About 10mins later, after driving across the city to run errands, one of the trucks caught up to us, honked, held up the note and said a BIG THANK-YOU! Sweet Aidan's life is putting a smile on so many ppl's faces today!

Today I helped out a homeless person on the side of the road with a cold bottle of water, a granola bar, a couple clean t-shirts. He was more than happy to receive this handout.

Today turned out to be more crazy than I anticipated, so I donate money in Aidan's name to 2 amazing causes - Bake A Wish Austin (they deliver bday cakes to kids in shelters) and to Team Holden (a very sweet family, like y'all, who just lost their son recently) - http://weheartholden.wordpress.com/. Happy Birthday Angel Aidan!

A backpack, school supplies, and a case of diapers will be dropped off at North Kent Community Services this afternoon in honor of sweet baby Aiden. NKCS helps local families in need of food and clothing and are currently collecting backpacks and school supplies to distribute to local children in need for the upcoming school year.

In memory of Aidan, we are donating clothes, toys, and blankets for the children at a local women's shelter. The women's shelter aids women and children who are victims of domestic abuse. We are also making a donation to Rainbow Kitchen which provides nutrition for low income children, families, disabled, and elderly.
Happy birthday sweet Aidan! Your life is making a huge impact for people everywhere. ♥

Today I woke up with a smile thinking of sweet Aidan. In his honor today, I bought coffee for the car behind me in the drive thru, I took cookies and a thank you balloon to the downtown Dallas fire station, I took my assistant to lunch, and made a donation to March Of Dimes in Aidan's memory. Much Love!

Unsure what to do in memory of Aidan, but the best opportunity was presented to me. I was in Wal-Mart behind a woman obviously distressed when she didn't have enough money to pay for her groceries. The cashier was rather rude and threw the 6 or 7 items in a buggy as the women quietly walked out with her limited items. I didn't say anything, removed them from the buggy, paid for them, and caught the women just as she was leaving. She was with a elderly woman and both of them started crying when I handed them the two sacks. It was only around $10.00, but what a blessing my heart received from doing a good deed. Thank you, Aidan, for helping me think about my many blessings!

Last night I made several crosses, (2 stepping stones and 2 hand-painted wooden crosses) and plan to make more to donate to Maegan and John Ormesher's adoption fund. Two wonderful, loving people who will be amazing parents to a very lucky baby! Hoping to raise at least $100 for their cause: http://ormesherfamilyexpansion.blogspot.com/

I just mailed a check in honor of Aidan to a fund for Rosalie Goodwin, age 3, who nearly drowned 2 months ago in Owasso. Thank you for allowing us to share in Aidan's Act of Kindness Day.

Happy Birthday Aidan. In honor of you I came into work early and cleaned up the neighbors property because their home was crashed into by a careless driver a week or two ago, and they are both elderly and ill so they havent been able to get up all the little pieces of glass and debris. May God Bless your mom and dad and hold you safely in his arms sweet boy.

This morning I made a donation in Aidan's name to ManeGait Therapeutic Horesmanship, a non-profit in Collin County that helps children and adults with disabilities improve their lives.
Happy Birthday Aidan! Thank you for sharing your story and making a difference in the lives of so many!

Happy 2nd Birthday Aidan! I am taking goodies to the optomology surgery center where Emme had her eye surgery as the nurses were so awesome to her! They even dressed her little cat up like a nurse..you would have thought it was so funny! I would never have thought of doing this Aidan if it werent't for you! I love you...

Happy 2nd Birthday Aidan. A little girl named Riley who is 1 is getting a box filled with books,toys,movies and stuffed animals. She only owns 3 toys and lives in Fort Braggs NC....sent in dedication of Baby Aidan. I gave my son an extra kiss on the cheek for you.

I met Amanda on BBC and learned of Aidan's story since we both had the unfortunate loss of our children. I think this is a wonderful way to keep his memory alive! Happy Birthday to you sweet little boy. In memory of you today I made bread to give to a neighbor who lost his wife a few weeks back. I'm sure, as we know, not soon after someone we love passes, the cards and visits stop ... I'm hoping to make his day with a visit. I am also making a donation today to a St Judes Childrens Hospital "putt for life" here in my home town. It's a memorial mini golf outing in near my home for a child that passed away from cancer years back. We participate each year and will do so in Aidans name this weekend. May today be peaceful on you all as you celebrate your little boy.

A man came through the drive through at the Starbucks where I work and in our brief conversation I learned that his 12 year old daughter Mandy was battling leukemia and she was starting to lose her hair. I asked for their address and a few other questions. Her favorite animal is zebra and her favorite color is purple so tomorrow on Aiden's birthday I will be finishing her Zebra striped crochet hat with a purple trim. I will try to post a photo when I finish.

Went to visit Owens grave today, and as I looked around I noticed a grave that wasnt being tended to at all. On Aidans birthday, I am waking up early, bringing all my gardening supplies and pulling all weeds, unnecessary leaves off this mans grave. Making it look beautiful just like my Owen's grave. For the love Of Aidan. Happy Birthday in Heaven.

Volunteered at Childrens Medical Center today in the playroom. Played fuseball, Xbox, dolls, cars, tools and painted with some pretty special kids. Brightened their day and mine!

In memory of Aidan i made lunch for my office, ran their errands, and helped a friend with an IRS problem. Tommorrow im taking the local policemen to breakfast and sending pizza to the local L/D floor for the nurses. May Aidan's star shine bright.

I gave formula we couldn't use to another BBC mom and drove it to her work so she wouldn't have to go out of her way. Also, bought lunch for the person behind us in line. She asked about Aidan and said that she would pay it forward in memory of him (she also hugged me).

I stayed up very late to process images for an angel family to get them in the mail today so that they would arrive in time for their funeral this weekend :).

I bought a car wash for the person behind me at a USMC fund-raiser car wash. Happy Birthday sweet Aidan! Hard to believe it's been two years.

Just wanted to share that I cleaned my Neighbors house while I was there to feed their cat when they were on vacation this week and did it all in memory of your little angel boy!! Hugs

Sunday we took our boat out and was on the lake for all of 5 minutes and there was a stranded boat that another boat near us passed by them. We stopped to help the- they ran out of gas needed to be taken to nearest gas tank but really wanted to be taken back to their dock. Tom decided to take them to their dock. As we were driving it started storming we got them across the lake and they wanted to pay us for the gas we used and I asked them to please do this for someone else that is all the payment we wanted and as we were leaving I looked up in the sky and there was a full rainbow in the midst of the dark clouds. I looked up and said this is for you aiden this is for you. The rainbow lasted about 2 minutes and it never showed again. God is amazing!

Isn't that AMAZING!?! And that is not even all of them! I truly am so thankful and blessed to have so many doing so much....all because of a little boy named Aidan.

It's days like this that I am reminded of two Bible versus:

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

"Furthermore, because we are united with Christ, we have received an inheritance from God, for he chose us in advance, and he makes everything work out according to his plan." Ephesians 1:11

I believe that God chose Andrew and me to be Aidan's parents. And although He couldn't stop what would happen to Aidan, He used his death to bring love into the world. God can take something ugly and awful and turn it into something wonderful and He used Aidan's death to do just that. In the two years since his death we have raised over $8,000 for the March of Dimes in Aidan's memory. He has moved others to do random acts of kindness like that mentioned above, to donate to various charities, to appreciate their children more, their husbands and wives and to generally be kinder. Life is such a precious fragile thing and everyday that we are given on this earth is a gift....and Aidan has taught us not to waste it.

Today baby boy you would be two years old and would be running around opening lots of gifts like toy cars and trucks, dinosaur toys, t-ball sets and legos. But instead on your 2nd Birthday YOU gave the world gifts...You gave the world kindness and love. When I was carrying you you made people call out to God in prayer, to be thankful for their blessings and you brought people closer to Him...and in doing that you changed the world...and now two years after your death you are still changing it, one heart at a time. Aidan, I am so thankful that God sent you to me, I am so proud to be your mother and I can't wait to hold you in my arms again. Happy Birthday precious son. I love you and miss you until we are united again.